We (sister #1 and I) made a trip to see our sister (my sister #3) who is bedfast with severe MS, and stayed with our sister who has Post-Polio Syndrome and severe osteoporosis (sister #2).
Sister #3 has a permanent catheter installed through her abdomen, and she suffers from repeated urinary infections that also cause her to have seizures. While we were there, she was mostly cogent and recognized us and tried to talk to us, but her world is so limited that she does not have much to talk about. She loves the shows Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy. Her daughter and son-in-law (a male nurse) take care of her and have her in a small apartment next to their house. Her grandchildren come and go as they please into her living space. While we were there sister #3’s daughters wanted to talk about her final arrangements. They wanted to know if we knew her favourite hymns and scripture verses (we didn’t), and did we have any special things we would want at her funeral (no). Mostly, they wanted to make sure that we, sisters #1 and #2 and I, knew about her condition, and what they were doing to take care of her (lots).
Sister #2 has lost three inches to her osteoporosis since January. She is also caring for two of her grandchildren, a girl and a boy. The girl is nearing puberty, and the boy is emotionally disturbed for lack of a father figure and because of the early childhood neglect by his mother and live-in-dad.
During the trip we also met with some of our cousins that still live near the old home place. Nice people, not Christians, but nice people. Our (sister #1 and I) mission for the trip was to locate our grandfather’s (mom’s dad) grave site. Lo-and-behold, there was no headstone for his grave. We were glad the cemetery has very good records!
I’m sure Mom & Dad did not have the money for a headstone in 1953. Grandpa was not a Christian, was an immigrant, and the only “club” he was a member of was the Grange. What do you put on the headstone of a man that was not a believer, was abandoned by the rest of his family, and no one (not children nor grandchildren, even his namesakes) cared for 55 years whether or not he had a headstone? We are buying a headstone for Grandpa; here is a picture of it:


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